As I sat there, I thought how cool is that. That in the midst of all this bad he chooses to see the good in stuff. Then the other couple said that they just celebrated whatever number of years together. WOW I thought to myself.
But then the conversation between them went on longer & as I listened I kept thinking...it's time for you to just shut up! I wasn't upset because they had these great, wonderful & perfect years together & I don't have that. It was that the conversation had turned to how bad divorce is & how people just don't fight for their marriages anymore.
I guess at this point I was giving them my all so famous "Go to hell" stare unknowingly. One of the men looked at me & asked if I was ok. I just gave a little eyebrow lift, which those who know me know that means you done pissed me off.
So the conversation continued a little longer & my stare I guess got a little harder. Finally one of the ladies said, "Oh dear! I don't see a ring on your finger. Are you divorced?" Here's your sign.
My reply simply was that unless they were divorced & until they had walked in those shoes, they may want to just to talk about the excitement in their celebration of years together & not get into the discussion of why others are divorced.
I know to some divorce is looked at as a sin & as failure. But to the me it's different. I FOUGHT HARD for my marriage. We went through things that no one should ever have to endure but in the end it just wasn't enough. To me divorce is not failure at all! We gave it all we had & battled some very rough times together.
But I do not see this divorce as a failure!!! It's lessons learned along the way.
I'm ready for whatever is next with this little man & God by my side.
I'm not putting marriage down because my marriage didn't work; so next time please think about how you put divorce down until you have been in those shoes!!!
1 comment:
Thats the truth. Often people think that everyone elses situation is no different than their own but in fact while some couples just deal with arguments, financial problems, and mother-in-law issues, others are dealing with unfaithful partners, physical and mental abuse, and neglect. Divorce is not always the answer but sometimes its the only choice. In life a person should do what is best for them and their situation.
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